Dating

So, today, out of nowhere, I told Kenny I missed dating him. Haha...I love being his wife of course, and I absolutely love the life we are building together. But, sometimes, I miss dating him. When we were dating, he was the kind of boyfriend that showed up out of nowhere with a bunch of roses or a package of black socks. Haha, at the time where I worked I had to wear black socks. I only had one pair and I kept getting remarks about wearing white socks, so he suprised me once with black socks! Haha! He was the kind of boyfriend that would call me the night before our "weekend" and tell me to pack. Then he'd show up and off we'd go for a mini vacation! Always random, always lovely, always fun. He'd bring me candies, he took me to lots of fun things, he suprised me with jewelry. He always listened to things I'd say or talk about even when they were indirect and then he would have some suprise later like a cd I said I wanted to hear. Always thinking...he was good. We were a pretty spontanious couple and very busy. We had a lot of fun dating. And then whenever we didn't agree on something, somehow it was so much easier just to let it go and not really care if we didn't see eye to eye. Of course, we did argue, but all the little things seemed so much littler. Now that we are married and have children, we cannot be spontanious the way we used to. We don't really bring each other suprises anymore, we bring the kids things! We go to kid-friendly places to shop, eat and play and everything revolves around the kids. Which, of course is great and I knew that would be the way things were. I looked forward to this phase in my life, and now that I am here, I do enjoy it. I knew it would be like this, I just didn't realize I'd miss dating!! But I do...only sometimes, but today is one of those days. I wish that when Kenny got home from work tonight I could be all snazzied up and we could just go out together. But you know, that's okay. Instead I will have on my pajamas (maybe I will trade in the sweats and t-shirt for a nice set or nightgown for just tonight ;o) and we will sit down, chat about our day, check on the kids (who will hopefully be fast asleep) and watch Biggest Loser while drinking some hot vanilla chai with whipped cream. And honestly, maybe that's all I would want to do anyway! Maybe that would be our date night! Sounds nice enough to me!
I just need to remind myself that spontaneous mini vacations and black socks will still be there in 20 years, but my kids will likely be out and on their own. So these moments are fleeting and even though I miss dating Kenny, where we are at now is perfect, exactly where we are supposed to be.